How I Grew as a Leader by Embracing Vulnerability

As an executive coach working closely with higher education leaders, I've come to understand that true leadership is not about projecting an image of perfection or infallibility. Instead, it's about authenticity, openness, and vulnerability. This realization didn't come overnight; it was a journey shaped by my experiences and the challenges I've faced personally and professionally.

The Turning Point: Recognizing the Power of Vulnerability

For years, I believed that leadership required a certain degree of emotional distance. I thought that to lead effectively, especially in the high-stakes world of higher education, I needed to maintain a strong, unwavering facade. But over time, I noticed a disconnect—both with my teams and with myself. I wasn't showing up fully as the leader I aspired to be.

The turning point came during a particularly challenging period when I was placed in an interim role at a university and asked to navigate a significant strategic overhaul. The process was complex, emotions ran high, and I found myself feeling increasingly isolated. Despite my efforts to remain composed, I sensed that this team needed more from me—more honesty, transparency, and human connection. But I didn’t know how to get there.

So I began doing the work, learning and studying, and becoming a practitioner on how to be a better leader in difficult situations. It was then that I decided to embrace vulnerability as a leadership strength rather than a weakness. I eventually left that institution, determined to try my new skills as a fresh start with a new organization. I began sharing my concerns, acknowledging my uncertainties, and asking for input from my team in ways I hadn't done before. The result was profound. Not only did I feel more connected to my team, but they also responded with increased trust, collaboration, and dedication.

Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership: What I Learned

1. Vulnerability Builds Trust

   By being open about my own challenges and uncertainties, I created a space where others felt safe to do the same. This trust is the foundation of strong, cohesive teams—teams that are willing to take risks, innovate, and push through difficult times together.

2. Vulnerability Encourages Authenticity

   I became more authentic in my interactions when I allowed myself to be vulnerable. This authenticity resonated with my team and colleagues, who appreciated seeing the real person behind the title. It reminded me that leadership is not about being perfect; it's about being real.

3. Vulnerability Enhances Communication

   Open communication is essential in higher education, where the stakes are high, and the impact of decisions can be far-reaching. By embracing vulnerability, I became a better listener and communicator, which improved the overall flow of information and ideas within my teams.

4. Vulnerability Fosters Growth

   As I became more comfortable with vulnerability, I also became more open to feedback and learning. This willingness to grow and adapt is crucial in a constantly changing landscape like higher education, where leaders must continuously evolve to meet new challenges.

5. Vulnerability Strengthens Relationships

   Leadership is, at its core, about relationships. By embracing vulnerability, I deepened my connections with those I lead and those I serve. It allowed me to engage more meaningfully with faculty, staff, students, and stakeholders, creating a more inclusive and supportive environment.

Resources for Leaders Looking to Embrace Vulnerability

If you're interested in exploring the concept of vulnerability in leadership further, here are some resources that I recommend:

Books:

• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown: This book delves into the power of vulnerability and how it can transform the way we live, love, parent, and lead.

• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown: Another excellent resource that explores how embracing our imperfections can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life.

Podcasts:

• Dare to Lead by Brené Brown: This podcast features interviews with leaders who discuss the importance of vulnerability, courage, and empathy in leadership.

• The Look & Sound of Leadership by Tom Henschel: A podcast that offers practical advice on leadership development, including the role of vulnerability.

Workshops and Coaching:

• Consider joining workshops or seeking coaching that focuses on emotional intelligence and vulnerability in leadership. These can provide practical tools and support as you integrate vulnerability into your leadership style.

Embracing vulnerability has been one of the most transformative aspects of my leadership journey. It has allowed me to connect more deeply with those around me, foster trust, and lead with greater authenticity. For those of you leading in higher education, I encourage you to explore how vulnerability can enhance your leadership practice. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being human.

Remember, leadership is not just about guiding others—it's also about growing and evolving yourself. By embracing vulnerability, you open the door to new possibilities for connection, innovation, and impact.

Feel free to reach out if you’re interested in discussing how vulnerability can play a role in your leadership journey or if you’d like to explore coaching opportunities. Let’s grow together.